Thursday, February 25, 2021

A week later at home, but still touched by loss/open doors after knocking on them.../tears and prayers intermingled

A parting pose from my military family after our first ever VCC- Verly Christmas Camp!  

Many prayers as they ask the Lord's plan for them in the military.  As in all of our lives there are doors that open and close and armed with prayer and faith we are led down the narrow path as we follow Jesus carrying/dragging our Cross!

In El Paso with Our Lady of Guadalupe on their home off base in 2012.  

Maria had just lost a pregnancy while we were there with her for Thanksgiving and our first time at their new home.  Both times Maria had a miscarriage I was with her!  Not only had I prayed long and hard that my girls would not have to experience the loss I had in my childbearing years, but I was with her both times!  "Who better to help her through?"  Ruth reminded me.  Sad but true.  

Loss has been a huge part of my journey of life and death.  Losing a sister in 1986 - Mary was very close to me and was 28 and left behind a husband and baby daughter.  At the same time of her wake and funeral, I had a scary loss of my 14 week old pregnancy while at my parents' home.  I ended up in the hospital overnight on IV's as I hemorrhaged so much. At one point I thought not only would my baby join my sister, but I also!  That was my 4th loss of 7 total!  The two after were 20 week boys in the womb and William and Thomas are stillborn boys buried at the cemetery.

https://familysoulstory.blogspot.com/p/my-most-cherished-cross-patrick-gerard.html

With their first born, Therese, in St Paul while Joseph was in law school.  She looks so much like her mom did as a baby and is what I call one of my Verly girls!  She will be 13 in a month, and the best big sister ever!  How she loves all LIFE, and is an amazing caregiver for her younger siblings.  Her prayers were fervent and powerful for her new baby sister in the womb.  Maria had a scare with bleeding and Therese joined Esther today in the first reading in such intense and powerful prayer!

Queen Esther, seized with mortal anguish,
had recourse to the LORD.
She lay prostrate upon the ground, together with her handmaids, 
from morning until evening, and said:
“God of Abraham, God of Isaac, and God of Jacob, blessed are you. 
Help me, who am alone and have no help but you..."  Esther C

All is well with her baby sister, and we look forward to meeting her on June 1st!  Therese will be there to help her every need!

They had barely left and this gem was on my family wall!  Such a wonderful family!  

Evie and the joy of doing girl's hair!

Pat and I then traveled out to Fort Lewis to have some days with them there, and bring them our canning that we do for 7 families, and meat and share in their lives on the base in Tacoma, WA!
Grandpa joined the boys for some dog walks - Princess gets a few a day.
Out for a hike in mild damp Washington ...
Hector and Evangeline with grandpa.
The girls are outnumbered by 4 brothers, so a new baby sister is a delight for them.  I am sure that Evie will learn from her big sister in how to care for a baby girl's every need.
Two of my Verly girls - dark hair and big eyes and like stepping back in time for me.
The 6 on our last night there... soon they will be 7.  I was the oldest of 7 and then we adopted 4 to bring us in an instant to 11!  The Lord at work in our family continues to this day. 

 Both of my parents are gone in this last year, so that is huge in my Loss department.  Yes, I know that I was lucky to have them for 95 and 90 years - well, only 69 for me...  and that it is wonderful that they were only apart for 7 months and that I had dad here with me for 6 of those months thanks to Covid, but I am still sadly and sorely missing them.  I miss you, mom and dad!

https://familysoulstory.blogspot.com/p/the-amazing-story-of-13-becoming.html

I added Hallel to this picture taken our final day of VCC in January after sharing 8a mass... "Your family fills up the Church!"   How I loved to see that and know that to be absolute Truth!  We share our faith as a family - all 30 of us and when we reach 31 in June I have no doubt that as soon as possible she will be baptized into The Church with great JOY and celebration!  How we love, love, love The Church with no reservations!
This is on my wall of family and brings me so much JOY each day!  I love to see Jesus in the tabernacle behind me!  Love you with my all Jesus, Mary and The Church!

A week ago I had just had the powerful experience of spending the night at the bedside of my son-in-law's sister, Amy, who had come home after a week in the hospital on hospice.  Together with her mom, dad, sister and brother... I was able to help with her pain and we found peace in her appearing to be "comfortable" through the night.  I prayed so hard for Amy's healing along with Nancy and family, and when it looked like that would not be the answer - I prayed that hospice could allow her to come home and peacefully be surrounded by family as hospice met all her needs as they presented themselves.  The Gospel that day about taking up her Cross was truly what she did.  She died a week ago today peacefully and surrounded by her wonderful close family.  So very hard, and I continue to hold them in my heart.

Prayers continue for Amy and her son.  So very hard to lose someone so young and who has to leave behind a child!  I know that my parents are joining us - dad, mom and I have been praying for Amy over this last year and a half.

The ups and downs of life are made richer by our prayers intermingling with the tears.  At one point I heard Bernadette crying on the couch for her Godmother.  We prayed together and I shared with her all the tears I had cried constantly while sitting in the barn watching Pat milk cows for my sister, Mary.  "I was pregnant with Susan, and wondered how she would ever turn out.  As it is... she is my nun, but has no time for when I cry."  

It is something that Berna shares with her mom... Amy was her Godmother, and my sister, Mary was Nancy's Godmother.  

Thoughts and prayers continue...  

The Gospel today reminds us that we do not always understand why our prayers seem to go unanswered.  LIFE and death is a mystery to us.  

Jesus said to his disciples:
“Ask and it will be given to you;
seek and you will find;
knock and the door will be opened to you.
For everyone who asks, receives; and the one who seeks, finds;
and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened..."  Matthew 7

Looking back at my sister's death now 35 years ago... I can see with wise eyes how the Lord has been at work in the life of her husband and daughter with wonderful addition to their family! Doors have indeed opened and love and family have been found!  Thank you, Lord!

Bernadette hard at work on some special things for Godmother, Aunt Amy!  

Jesus, we are brought to a deep place of Trust and Faith and prayer by LOSS in our lives.  It brings us to fall prostrate in prayer  asking you to hold us and show us how we are to pick ourselves up and follow you dragging our Most Cherished Cross.  Jesus, we trust in you.  Amen

Dominic of he, Gus and his cousin in the middle - a comfort and support sandwich 
A thankyou for all the support we were given in a wonderful place to stay, food and loving support.  Thank you one and all!  Bless-bless, Barbara
Outlined with sparkle glue! 

This reminds me of Nancy's love of men's ties - she made herself a jumper from many she found at the Thrift store!  She wore them to a speech meet and a man in the audience told her that he saw many of his ties walk across the stage!!!
LOVE Jesus in his Word!  Scott Hahn is so much a man of The Word as are my wonderful Little Sisters and Brothers of the Lamb!  They have taught me to begin the night before reading the Gospel for the next day!  I get so excited to hear it - "What will it be?"

Pat's mother said this every night before bed with her kids for her 2 years on hospice!
Love!
I asked Maria how I should pray for the many needs of our families - she shared this with me and I repeat is many times throughout and at the end of the litany of our 250+ in both our families!  Now I have this beautiful image to go with my prayers to Jesus, Mary and Joseph!  
Holy now - Peter Mayer







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